Color's of Autumn

From the people I’ve met throughout my life I’ve learned valuable lessons from each one.  Also applying some of their ways of their life to my own to make it better. 

Something I’ve realized; not everyone is like this but I’ve found that  those who have higher degrees and have high salaries have the tendency to be arrogant and come off as self entitled in their behavior. 

What also caught my attention is how a lot of them like to show off, I think a lot of us are guilty of this from time to time I felt my self doing this a lot but found the more I shown off the more tension and problems in my life came. 

I learned the hard way of not showing every aspect of my life to the public. Never underestimate the power of evil eye. 

The other type of people are the ones who may not have had the best of things in life. Ether they’ve faced traumatic experiences they didn’t grow up in a wealthy environment but I’ve found some of these people the most compassionate to those and willing to give even if it was their last item of clothing or food to their last dollar. 

I’ve been often accused of being jealous of those who’ve grown up Where things were pretty much handed to them. 

Jealousy and envy is a normal feeling but when it controls you is where the problem lies. I maybe jealous of those who’re born and raised Arab who can speak and read the language fluently but never have I been jealous of anyones life I have the life I want Alhumdullilah and I know the struggles I’ve faced and I don’t know what struggles others face to keep their life the way it is so Alhumdullilah I don’t envy anyone life. 

I’ve faced a lot of traumatic experiences in life some out of my control some of them out of my bad choices.  Alhumdullilah (thanks to God) I’m content with my life I struggle here and there but that’s life but I’m not in competition with anyone I don’t find myself better than anyone because In the end we will all be worm food. 

I do feel thankful for the experiences I’ve had they’ve taught me to be compassionate to others unfortunately you do have those who’ve had hard life’s and they use it as an excuse to treat others in a bad manner Alhumdullilah I’d never do that because I know how it feels and would  not want someone else to feel the way I did before. 

Something else I’ve learned the hard way and in good ways no matter what you give ether good or bad it will always find it’s way back to you. 

Those who  show off their wealth and they have degrees etc are insecure only do so to feel important and need and crave the attention. There’s nothing wrong with feeling proud but it becomes a problem when you become arrogant and treat others badly. 

Bottom line be kind you don’t know what people are fighting in their daily life it cost nothing to be kind and to help others.

The Needs:

The needs of the cat/dog are often the same as the basic human needs.

We begin by trying to gain the trust of the cat/dog.  You start by providing food, water, affection; you may also start bringing special treats or toys to play with them day by day you repeat until you know you’ve established the trust knowing they will not go anywhere else and that they’ll stick around.

Sometimes life we become busy and you may begin to ease up on the frequent things you did to gain the trust of this new companion but they stick around because they know that or hope that you will remember them and provide them with their needs. Others begin to notice and start to provide water/food and affection but they still hang around because you’re their sole caregiver and they trust you.

You become stressed with everyday life sometimes we tend to take out that stress on the ones who didn’t inflict the stress we may start to become easily agitated you start to raise your voice maybe become a little physical but the cat/dog is forgiving and understanding and still comes back to you to try and comfort you, You may push them away they feel hurt shocked and surprised by your behavior but still hang around hoping that you will come back to how you used to be to gain their trust.

Over the time the cat/ dog become stressed with your behavior and your lack of caring for their needs that you once provided them to gain their trust they may still stay around but they begin to look elsewhere to fulfill their needs and to feel they’re loved and to be treated like they’re needed you begin to take notice and you start to try and attempt to gain their trust back but its already broken.

You sit and think what happened, why did the one you once cared of and provided for left you or became distant from you. Sometimes we miss all the opportunities to fix things but ignore them and try to label the problem on someone else and don’t take credibility for your actions. We’re often the fault of our own chaos we want to blame others because we don’t want to face the reality that we have a problem. The first step in fixing the problem is realizing what it is and admitting what the problem is our ego and pride gets in the way of this and prevents us from fixing the true issue even if it’s within ourselves.

In order to keep the trust of a human or cat/dog once you’ve established their trust don’t just stop continue doing all the things you did to gain it, don’t your anger out on those who didn’t inflict it leave it at the door once you enter your home don’t bring it with you, Your companions are not your enemies they’re there for you; one will not stay though where they’re not appreciated.